Kids‘
moods can change as quickly — and with as little warning — as the
weather. There are about a million reasons why your child might be
pushing you away (or suddenly seem desperate for snuggle). While the
best advice is usually just to wait it out like a thunderstorm, here’s a
list of some of the more common reasons your child might be acting
standoffish and how to respond:
Love lies at the core of your relationship with your child. It needs to flow freely from all directions. Just as she loves you without question, you must give her your love and acceptance absolutely. Your love shouldn’t depend on the way she looks or behaves. It shouldn’t be used as a reward or withheld as a threat. Your love for your child is constant and indisputable, and it’s up to you to convey that, especially when he or she misbehaves and needs to have limits set or behavior corrected.
There must always be positive strokes when you talk to your kid as each positive stroke can bring in that confidence and smile in their face.
Love must be held separate and above any fleeting feelings of anger or frustration over her conduct. Never confuse the actions with the child. The more secure she feels in your love, the more self- assurance she will have as she grows up. And whatever you imbibe and tell your kid in their early days it will be treasured by them once they get into their teens.
Some time mood swing could spoil whole mood but It’s also a good idea to talk through what happened — after a cooling-down period and on your child’s level. If you think you have any fault in the matter, model taking responsibility and state where you’ve gone wrong (“I’m sorry I spoke sharply in the supermarket”), what you’ll do to repair the problem (“I’m going to try hard not to speak so sharply next time”), and what you expect from your child (talking out her feelings instead of hitting).
At this age your child can handle a discussion about your feelings of disappointment and anger at her outburst, but don’t make your feelings the focus of the conversation. Instead, say, “Let’s think about forgiving each other for that hard time.” I hope you enjoyed the article, please do share your thoughts on this.
Love lies at the core of your relationship with your child. It needs to flow freely from all directions. Just as she loves you without question, you must give her your love and acceptance absolutely. Your love shouldn’t depend on the way she looks or behaves. It shouldn’t be used as a reward or withheld as a threat. Your love for your child is constant and indisputable, and it’s up to you to convey that, especially when he or she misbehaves and needs to have limits set or behavior corrected.
There must always be positive strokes when you talk to your kid as each positive stroke can bring in that confidence and smile in their face.
Love must be held separate and above any fleeting feelings of anger or frustration over her conduct. Never confuse the actions with the child. The more secure she feels in your love, the more self- assurance she will have as she grows up. And whatever you imbibe and tell your kid in their early days it will be treasured by them once they get into their teens.
Some time mood swing could spoil whole mood but It’s also a good idea to talk through what happened — after a cooling-down period and on your child’s level. If you think you have any fault in the matter, model taking responsibility and state where you’ve gone wrong (“I’m sorry I spoke sharply in the supermarket”), what you’ll do to repair the problem (“I’m going to try hard not to speak so sharply next time”), and what you expect from your child (talking out her feelings instead of hitting).
At this age your child can handle a discussion about your feelings of disappointment and anger at her outburst, but don’t make your feelings the focus of the conversation. Instead, say, “Let’s think about forgiving each other for that hard time.” I hope you enjoyed the article, please do share your thoughts on this.
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